Monday, October 20, 2008

Hey All...
As a result of my new job and the festive season(Dusshera & Diwali) I've been super busy on the home and work front...Sorry, I haven't been able to update my blog as often as I would like to. Pls do keep visitin!

Is Honesty Really the best Policy?

Is it important or even essential to tell everyone the truth about everything?

Is any lie...Just that...a lie? Should no exceptions be made for white lies?

Is saying the truth in any situation always the best thing to do??

A friend of mine is in that phase of life where shez looking for a partner. Shes been meeting up with men and at that point when the 2 of them get comfortable with each other and seem to like each other…she takes the plunge and enlightens him COMPLETELY about her past relationships. Her information sharing is more than simply stating that she has an ex-boyfriend. She tells the guy that shez lived in for a few months n some more details . N after this the guy doesn’t come online as often as he used to, keeps missing her calls and mysteriously vanishes…
Initially I was tempted to say “oh! The guy is not good enough if he can’t accept you they way u are, with all ur past, present details”.. But I’m beginning to rethink that..coz this has been happening with her for too long now and with too many men. Is it really important to give the guy all the details? She has honestly gotten over her ex. Can’t she simply say “Yes, I’ve had past relationships” and leave it at that?

In yet another instance..another friend’s boyfriend came along and confessed to her that he had had a thing for her friend before he fell in love with her. He said he had gotten over the crush/infatuation/whatever well before their relationship started. Yet she was disturbed. She tried to sustain the relationship for a few weeks and then she broke up. The guy didn’t deserve that. He was truly heart-broken. They would have been better off if he had kept his secret to himself.

During college days, a girl wanted to be honest n went n asked her parents permission to get drunk in Goa… well..u can guess wat her parents response to that was… n so much for honesty…she wasn’t even allowed to go on the Goa trip anymore!

During my school days for about 1 or 2 yrs, I and a few other friends used to copy during class tests. I used to pass around my paper to the boys. One fine day, my class Xiii teacher asked all those who copied to go over and confess to her. Most of us didn’t. A few who did were given grade E that year…

Honesty was definitely not the best policy in all the above cases. N Really there was no lesson to learn from being honest either. So, what’s your response to my questions at the beginning of this post? Mine is pretty obvious!

Sunday, October 05, 2008

20Q Again!

Ray Ray tagged me… I’ve actually done this tag before…infact I think this is the 1st tag I did…but this tag seems to have gone around the world n its come back with a new set of Qs…. So here I go..

RULE #1 People who have been tagged must write their answers on their blogs and replace any question that they dislike with a new question formulated by themselves.

RULE #2 Tag 6 people to do this quiz and those who are tagged cannot refuse. These people must state who they were tagged by and cannot tag the person whom they were tagged by continue this game by sending it to other people.

Note: Q4 is the one I introduced,n the people I tag are not allowed to replace it.

1. If your lover betrayed you, what will your reaction be?
Shock n disappointment. Followed by conversations so I can figure out why it happened.n tDepending on the reasons ,the decision regarding OUR future together shall be made.
BTW..I don’t like the term LOVER.

2. If you can have a dream come true, what would it be?
I’m superstitious…can’t share my REAL dream..sorry!
On a lighter note…I just had my dream of getting a license come true! Yayeeeee, I passed my road test,that I took for the first time, last Friday!

3. Whose butt would you like to kick?
For fun? Let me think…Hmm.. Harish! why? Coz its FUNNNNNNNN ! n therz more surface area to kick :P
(I’m runnin ‘coz I’m def getting a butt-kick for this one!)

4. Why do you blog?
’coz I love Talkin!!!

5. Will you fall in love with your best friend?
Been There. Done that.:) (Just FYI I don’t know what love is! N no don’t bother trying to teach me)

6. Which is more blessed: loving someone or being loved by someone?
Loving someone. U gotta be lucky n blessed to love someone selflessly and not expecting anything in return..irrespective of anything . I believe there are very very few people on this planet who can do that!

7. How long do you intend to wait for someone you love?
Until I’m pushed to my limits and my patience is tested! (Damn, why are there so many Qs that have got sumthing to do with love??)

8. If the person you secretly like is attached, what will you do?
Try n Get over him! I don’t think I have a choice!

9. If you could root for one social cause, what would it be?
I’m with Ray Ray on this one..Peace has got to be it!

10. What takes you down the fastest?
Betrayal, disloyalty, breaking the trust! ouch… all of that hurts!

11. What resurrects you the fastest?
TLC from the loved ones..

12. What’s your fear?
I fear losing near n dear ones. I also fear the punishment I’ll get for some of my sins!

13. What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?
Fun!Fun!Fun! A prankster. Easy-go-lucky, n did I say Fun?!

14. Would you rather be single and rich or married and poor?
Would any of this matter as long as I’m content n happy?

15. What’s the first thing you do when you wake up?
Brush my teeth n check email…for all these days. The routine could change once I start my new job.

16. If you fall in love with two people simultaneously who will you pick?
Is it possible to be in love with 2 people at the same time?

17. Would you give all in a relationship?
Well almost. Not completely though. The self-pride and self-respect matters.

18. Would you forgive and forget someone no matter how horrible a thing he has done?
Forgive. Yes. Forget.Never. My memory is my strength n weakness. I’m incapable of forgettin!

19. Do you prefer being single or in a relationship?
A bit of both…It keeps changing.

20. Tag 6 people.
Gunj, Preeti(Incesant musings), Suma, CG, Ankur, xh – Just naming people I’ve never tagged before.

Thursday, October 02, 2008

New Beginning…

On Sep 30th I sent this email to countless folks at work, Friends and Acquaintances I’ve acquired in the last 5 years…


One’s first job is like love at first sight. Irrespective of the flaws, the downs in the journey, it is and it will always be close to your heart.

Accenture is my first job and I have had the best and best times in these 4.10 years. It has been a wonderful platform for learning the trade when I joined as a novice Junior Software Engineer. During my tenure here, I have seen working culture in both East and West namely IDC (BDC and HDC) and USDC. Today, I am a successful career woman and my thanks go to Accenture and the various well-wishers, colleagues with whom I worked with throughout.

Hence as I move towards new pastures I take this opportunity to thank each and everyone one of you for making me what I am in my career today. I wish you a warm farewell and wish all your dreams and achievements fair-well!
It is a small world and I hope to bump into you someplace someday. Do keep in touch. My personal email-id is . “

Yes…I’ve Quit. N like mentioned in the email among many other reasons it hurts ‘coz Accenture is my first job and I’ve been there for close to 5 years. A Really long time. Needless to say, am emotionally attached to the place. I loved my work and colleagues and they in turn adored me and respected me and trusted me! Though the travel was hard , the occasional work-from-home was a treat…

The reason I had to quit is a long story and I don’t want to explain it here…but bottom-line is I didn’t have much of a choice. I had to leave.

For 3 full days now, I’m Jobless, n am lovin it…am enjoyin lazy days. On the 6th of Oct, I start work with my new company and have fingers crossed for everything to go allrite…

I’m nervous about the new job in terms of getting the work I’ve been hired to do, getting along well with my new colleagues, having a good relationship with my manager, no work-from-homes, no time to get online or surf the net during the day and working in the same office as my husband! Yeah! A couple of big changes….

But well, it all does happen for the Best… so here I am waiting for a new beginning….Wish me luck u all…