After a Fight…
The kind of person I am..if I have a fight/argument with anyone..hubby/family/friends/co-worker….any1… I’d like to talk it over, I’d like it for all parties concerned to pour out their anger..mabbe the fight could last for 30 mins..an hr..cpl of hrs (if it must)…but that’s its…not more than that. “Never Sleep over fights” is my attitude.
As it is I get worked up n tensed about fights. If I’ve had an argument with someone..thats all I can think of until that argument is resolved, until we have resumed our normal conversations. I lose sleep over the fight. I cry at times in anger n frustration. I don’t like the dead silence after a fight. I don’t like to do “my own thing” or “go my way”. I’ll talk anything to just fill that silence…mabbe even about physics/math (which I hate) or politics (which I have no clue of) n if there is a “sorry” exchanged followed by a hug, I’ll be on top of the world!
But alas, that’s how I feel. Not they way people around me feel. N it takes 2 people to resolve fights!
How do you like to handle such situations?
Monday, May 26, 2008
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Even I like to resolve differences on the same day itself.. kiss and make up before u sleep is my mantra :)
It depends on the people whom i'm fighting with. If they are my loved ones and if they are right...immediately i'll surrender to them...
but if they are wrong... then also i will surrender to them (what else I can do ? )
if they are not my loved ones... I just dont care...
cheers :-)
Cheers... I also dnt belive n sleeping over the fights... I prefer to clear the air. But u knw wat, ppl take this to their advantage sometime.
But I can't take cheating even a bit.. I can take any number of fights.
In situations like this, I say to myself.."Dnt be emotional..Be Logical". That helps
oh just d same way as u!!
i cant sleep over a fight!!
Ditto! I haveta get EVERTHING clear too, however long, howmuchever ardous a task that is!
and somehow, all the people i fight with believe in the same too. :) *thanks god*
hmm, what you should do, what would i have done.. hmm, probably force the person the person.. convince the person to co-operate. :|
I am the same way but only when it comes to people that I really really care about! If I have a fight with a roommate or a so-so friend, I will not sweat over it and let time heal all.
fantabulous!!! thts how i like it too...talk out the issue whch led to fight n nip it in the bud n finish it off....
but ppl i guess have worst habit of giving a silent treatment!!!!
hmm.. interesting.. if i have a problem with something, i will never open my mouth. just to avoid confrontations and fights. but when push comes to shove, i'm right there, saying everything that's on my mind. i just take the path of least resistance. fight or no fight, peace means a lot to me. if i can avoid it, i will.
ah... so like me, its difficult for me to sleep over a fight!!!
I cant ever :(
Cheers!!!
U haveto talk it over with the other person, coz if both keep quite and feel like let it go, assumptions could be quite deceiving than the true picture.
Cheers!
I like to resolve it..especially if it's my fault. usually Im the first to say sorry.
but if the other party is playing tough to get, Im not gonna be bothered either.
Im not someone who goes behind ppl. especially if it's their fault.
Keshi.
I find it so difficult to sleep once I have a fight with someone who I am emotionally attached to (family/friends). I personallly could relate to this post especially because I recently had a huge fight with my boyfriend. Well i hope we makeup soon cos am tired of fighting and need to get a goodnite sleep.lol
Nice post.
I know what you mean... and to some extent I am the same way... however I have realized that for some people they need their own time after the fight.... 'their space' as they say to get back to baseline....
and i have friends/family who sort of fall in that category... and so eventually i have learnt to give in some time...
I know its painful and frustrating...
If they don't come back to baseline... then I approach again... to resolve.
And believe me ... no one can be upset and mad for that long... in the end... it does end up all Good :)
I dnt hmm usually react so much.... I hmm hmm along the way..until this hmm hmm irritates the other person even more...
I try to cool it off and talk the next day... never leave a jhagda standing for more than a day..or else i will never be able to talk to that person again@
i hate fights.. and i rarely do one... i mostly dont make it big.. for i hate it because it may break relationships.. which i never want..
@ All : Thanks for ur response.
@karthik :(fights get me so worked up, i surrender to even those im not particularly fond of, just to end the fight
@CMchap : How to be logical n not emotional is the challenge rite?atlst for me it is.
@Busywriter : Some ppl need time n space before they clear up things. They'd rather not do it at the heat of the moment. Wldn't it be incorrect to try talk 'em into my way of doin things.
@Sol:Read my response to karthik :(
@Ashu: silent treatment is such a killer no?
@Gladriel: i know, i care a lot for peace too.
@Vaibhav : Thnks for stoppin by. n yeah talk it out imm or later, aaram se...is the challenge!
@keshi: read my response to karthik :(
@Tairebabs : Thanks for stoppin by. Hope things have gotten sorted out now n u had ur peaceful nite of sleep.
@neeku: liked ur honest response. I too try my best to not get all worked up n give the other person their space n time. Cant say i succeed in my attempt at all times.
@samby: Where have u been?blogs made private?
@Ishiqa: Welcome to my space.Thanks for stoppin by.
I read it. o well but Karthik said
**if they are not my loved ones... I just dont care...
I didnt say that, did I? :)
Keshi.
I handle it exactly like you do.
Unfortunately the three most imp people in my life (mom, dada and J) are totally opposite. If they get angry they just shut off and it kills me. So I always end up crying, saying sorry and all such to make them talk :)
With others, I'm little less dramatic, but I try to resolve differences as soon as I can.
im bad at handling such situations :(
thats why stay away from them as much as possible! :)
hmm..happy that ur addressing such an issue here..:)..u know what in our hospital[govn]...abt 10-15 illegal abortions take place daily each costing abt 4-7k!...people aren't really bothered these days!!
Yes.. Very true... Only by practice is can be done...
Try Manasey Relax Please, its a book thast induced logical thoughts on me
can i get a lesson as to how to really fight....please...i do get upset...and make people upset but seeing their frowning faces makes me snicker....and that breaks the tension most of the times....
it not only takes two people to resolve a fight but also two people resolute enuf to fight too....right
@Keshi : i meant to tell u that i'll surrender irrespective of whether its my fault, or sum1 i care for, or they play hard to get.
@P: V is also like that:( He likes to be left alone!
@Pri . i try to stay away too!
@Brocasarea...think u meant for this comment to be on the Good Deal post. But really 10-15 abortions evryday???thts shocking!n isnt abortion illegal in india???
@Ceedy: I agree it takes 2 people to fight. But how long can one person alwez break the tension or stay quiet??
n well..if u never get into an argument or fight..u shld be that way. It aint a must develop skill!
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